The wonderful Jo-n of SHOWER YOUR CHILDREN WITH LOVE - THE RIGHT WAY, has tagged me on a very important issue: Do I Spare the Rod?I don’t use hitting or spanking as a way to teach my little one how to accomplish something because hitting may stop the child, but it doesn’t generally teach understanding or help with realization. Parents I’ve observed who use hitting or spanking, generally use it for their own satisfaction (to alleviate their anger, impatience, unhappiness, annoyance, etc.), not for the benefit of the child.Hitting a little one due to emotional negativity is simply an incorrect approach to relating to a child. If our goal is to help and guide our children to understanding so that they can grow and accomplish on their own, then hitting is antithetical to that goal. You may have a child who responds to your requests out of fear and indoctrination, but again, that’s antithetical to the goal of guiding towards realization and understanding.So I would spare the rod in favor of more work on ourselves as adults so that we can finally approach our children with a clearer sense of what they truly need to be excellent.Please check out my previous post--A Primitive Remnant?--for further reading on this hot topic.--------------------------------------
Now how about you? Do you beat, uh, hit, uh, spank, uh, slap, uh, smack, uh, cane, uh, whack your precious ones into submission because of your frustration?
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Sabine
My Life Zone
Sting
Zam
Hooi Imm
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Instructions :**Start Copying Here**Tag 5 bloggers1st - You leave their blog and post link and add to the list below.2nd - Let the blogger know that they have been tagged by leaving a comment in their blog.1. Miche does not spare the rod.2. Jo-N wants to be her children's best friend.
3. The New Parent spares the rod.
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